But absolutely, there’s a misunderstanding. One time, after a quarrel at
the dinner, Suyuan told June that she never expect, only hope, only hope
the best for June, it’s no wrong to hope. But she never knows every time
she hope for something June couldn’t deliver, it hurts June. June said,
“And no matter what you hope for, I would never be more what I am, and
you never see that what I really am”. Her mother’s hope just likes a big
burden, not love.
“All of us like stairs, one step after another. Going up, going down,
but always going the same way.” This sentence is from An-Mei. It might
not be correct, but in some way, it also illustrates the relationship
between the mother and daughter, we are always linked together, the
feeling we need each other is so strong. Watching this movie, I felt I
saw myself, my mom, and the way we treat each other. Lack of
communication might be the most important problem, why people just can’t
tell others what they really want, what they really care about. In the
film, the four mothers are Chinese immigrants and their daughters are
America-raised, the culture’s different between mother and daughter lead
to the different values, it might be another problem that we can’t
understand each other. So, how to act properly as being daughters and
There are full of confusion and misunderstandings in our life, because
we always think what we think is right and then do the wrong thing.
Sometimes we will feel that we are so strange that we can’t understand
each other. But please open heart and open mouth, try to forgive them.
We never know what they mean to us until we lose them, and please don’t
wait until that time. When people closer, they are easier to hurt each
other, I believe even the misunderstanding is still a kind of love. In
the film, June never understand her mother even though her mother dead.
June said, “I didn’t know anything about her(June’s mother)”.
This film is talking about four stories of mothers and daughters. As
immigrants, all of the four mothers have a tough experience before they
come to America, they have A American dream that their daughter can’t
understand. The American dream is a belief that life would be better and
richer. They just hope their daughter not to experience what they have
experienced in China, they hope their daughter can achieve something.
But sometimes they express in a wrong way, so there must be a lot
June’s mother is Suyuan. Suyuan hopes June can get the best, be the
best, and be the best piano player in China. She thinks June can be
anything, anything she wanted. Whether Suyuan’s really think so, but
June believes she is thinking and Suyuan had really said so. June
doesn’t like piano and she know she doesn’t have the talent, she think
her mother never see that what she really is. June wants to prove her
mother was wrong, she didn’t have any talent, she is only an ordinary
person, as an ordinary person, she also thought she didn’t deserve the
best. When she grew up, she would say she is modest, always take care of
others. I think Suyuan’s expect must be a big pressure to June, June
will feel hurt if she doesn’t meet Suyuan’s expectation, and she doesn’t
want to let her mother to be disappointed. For a little girl, Suyuan’s
expectation is too hard. June even thought she must be the big
disappointment in her mother’s life.
Mothers always think their kids should get something what they think is
the best, but most of the time, it’s not what the child really want.
Mothers never ask, only commands. In Chinese traditional concept, the
family not only represents the absolute power of parents, but also means
the interdependent relationship between parents and children. But in
America, the individualism values encourage people struggle, stressed
self realization and independent consciousness.
R.Halliday：Yes，when you play in someone`s own ground，it`s not
always easy. But I used to play a lot in China，so I didn`t think too
They never want to hurt each other, but why their act make others
misunderstand? Why they do that? It reminds me of the Pygmalion Effect.
Praise, trust and expect have a kind of power, it can change people’s
behavior, when a person get another person’s trust and praise, he will
feel won the social support, so as to enhance the self value, become
self-confidence, self-esteem, and achieve a positive power, and try our
best to reach the other side of the expect. We influence each other.
Pygmalion effect tells us, to a person transfer positive expectations,
will make him progress faster and better development. On the other hand,
with one transfer negative expectations will make the person giving up,
give up efforts. Waverly and Lindo didn’t give each other any positive
behavior, so they just can’t get positive response, I think it may be a
circulation. If no one gives the first step, the circulation would never
stop. In Waverly is still a child, her mother didn’t give enough praise,
even though Waverly is growing up, she still feel her mother is against
her all the time. What’s more, they don’t communicate too much, they
even don’t know each other’s real mind. They both refused to compromise,
it results in the conflict be there for so many years.
This film let us realize the communication problem between mother and
daughter, it’s helpful for us to avoid misunderstanding and conflict
between mother and daughter. No doubt, it really touch me, it is
amazing. Each daughter is mother’s hope. No matter misunderstanding,
conflicts, or something else are the performances of love. The more we
love, the more we hurt. All we need to do is open our heart, understand
them, forgive them, be kind to them, and love them.
Lucky, in the last two generations have buried the hatchet. Mothers
broke the silence and have a communication with their daughter. When
daughters meet difficulties and frustration, mothers on their own
initiative to help them to analyze and solve problems, and encourage
them. On the other hand, as the growth of the age, daughters began to
listen to mother’s talk, and gradually understand mother, and thinking
the relationship between mother and daughter. They totally understand
how they care and love each other.
In the film, the four mothers try hard to be Americans, to accept
American values, but in fact, they still agree with Chinese culture. For
their daughters, they didn’t have a clear cognition for china, they even
don’t know how to speak Chinese, they agree with American values and way
of life. When mother and daughter talking, mother used to say “you
Americans blabla ”, and daughters used to say “we Americans blabla ”,
they divided each other into different group unconsciously. So there
must be a little prejudice between them. I think it may be a reason why
June wants to prove her mom is wrong, I still remember when June was a
little girl, she ever said to her mother, “I am not your slave, this is
not china, you can’t make me”. It’s cute, but it also hurt her mother.
Besides, the different values are also the reason why Lindo thinks
Waverly must be embarrassing to be her daughter.
J.Le Roux：I think the pressure is equal to all the players. But I
didn`t feel much
Just like Waverly and her mother Lindo, they have a conflict for a long
time. They never express their real thoughts so that they
misunderstanding each other for so many years. Waverly think Lindo was
not satisfied with her. Lindo think Waverly was embarrassing and ashamed
to be her daughter, and I think this thought hurt Lindo’s self-esteem so
that she always shows she’s not satisfied with her daughter. And, the
reason why Lindo would have this thought is that she is a Chinese woman.
I think Lindo is an aggressive and very independent woman, Waverly just
like her mother. When Lindo was young, she already knew what kind of
person she wants to be and what kind of life she really wants, so she
can leave her Chinese husband to the United States. She is so brave and
intelligent, she’s not often smiling, Waverly is a little afraid of her
even though she’s grow up. Lindo didn’t give Waverly enough attention,
praise, and affirmation. No matter what Waverly do, she just can’t get
her mother’s favour, it hurts Waverly a lot. She is always thinking how
to please her mother. But Lindo never know Waverly’s thoughts. Waverly
and Lindo never had a good communication until Waverly’s getting
J.Le Roux：I didn`t play in China，and it is the first time. The people
welcome me，and I`ll come back
Q：You played in China for a lot of times，and you also become more and
more famous here. Can you say something to your supporters？
R.Halliday：Great! They are different games and I think 9 ball requires
a lot more and needs better position. You need to play the cue ball
better. But in Chinese Billiard，potting is more
R.Halliday：Yeah I think Chinese fans are the best. They are always
behind you，and you can always expect full crowed. I love to play in
Q：This is not the first time that you play in China. You played Chinese
Billiard before. What`s the difference between the two
Q:This is a special match for you because you face Team China as well as
the Chinese supporters. How did you solve the problem and how to deal